Sunday, January 29, 2012

Things I Love About You

About a month or so after I met JJ, I started sending him little text messages enumerating the things I loved about him. Now, this doesn't sound like it would be very difficult, and it is pretty easy for someone as wonderful as JJ, but imagine trying to keep the list going without repeating. It can be a challenge, especially as you are getting to know someone.

Our relationship started as a sexual one.  As we got to know each other, though, a genuine friendship developed. And it just kept growing deeper.

I am a firm believer in letting the people you love know that you love them and why - and telling them often.

Normally, I would never share something like this because it's ours. Not everything that happens in a relationship should be made public. Sometimes I feel like some of the specialness is lost when something shared between two people becomes public.

So, why am I sharing this with you now?

Two reasons -
  1.  JJ decided that we'd share more about our relationship in this blog. This is something I wouldn't put on Prowling with Kat. It's too intimate.  I realize that may sound strange since PWK has explicit sex stories and many other intimate posts, but this is different.  I think most of you will know what I'm talking about. 
  2. In this case, I know that sharing these with you will not make them less special in any way. In fact, I think sharing them might help you understand what I see in JJ and what I cherish about him.
To get the full effect, you can't think of them as a list.  You have to imagine getting them sent to you as random texts, sometimes two or three in a day, sometimes only one in two or three days. Unexpected. A surprise.
 
Here are the first ten "Things I Love About You" texts I sent to JJ:

Things I love about you #1: I love the way you kiss me.

Things I love about you #2: I love how close and connected you are with your family.

Things I love about you #3: I love the way you hold my hand when we meet for coffee or a quick hello.

Things I love about you #4: I love the way you are so positive and content with your life.

Things I love about you #5: I love the sound of your laughter.

Things I love about you #6: I love the way you make me feel like the most loved person in the world when I am with you.

Things I love about you #7: I love that you are a problem solver and a doer. If something needs to be done, you just do it instead of waiting for someone else to do it.

Things I love about you #8: I love that you are an optimist.  The glass is almost always half full for you, rather than half empty.

Things that I love about you #9: I love the way you look right after we make love - satisfied, content, happy.

Things I love about you #10: I love that if you don't know how to do something, you learn how.

This is just the beginning. I think we're somewhere in the 80's now. Thinking about things I love about him never gets old.

And JJ - They are all still true.

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Your assignment - Go tell someone you love that you love them.  Right now.  This moment.  Don't wait. Life is shorter than you think.


3 comments:

  1. I love that you guys are open about your experiences. :)

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  2. Thanks! It's only in the last month or so that I've really been willing to share publicly. People on PWK were starting to think I didn't exist! So I figured I better chime in. Then, when I finally made my profile, I was told I had to make a Blog as well, and poof!!! JJ Loves Kat was born! Everything I've ever done has been all or nothing, so why should this be any different???

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  3. Kat you have a wonderful heart :-)

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